I hope you’re enjoying my Interview With A Working Mum series, and that some of these amazing ladies are inspiring you!
So far we’ve met 3 fab mums from various walks of life, all with different careers and goals.
- Lucy – Leaning In – an English mum living in Australia who takes her baby to work with her.
- Cydney Helsdown – a young, single mum who’s about to freelance from Jamaica.
- Maxine Speechley – a mum of twins who returned to nursing after her babies were born prematurely.
This week my guest blogger is Victoria from Lylia Rose, a very busy entrepreneurial mummy!
Firstly, please introduce yourself…
Hello, my name is Victoria and I’m 31 years old. I’m wife to Ben and Mum to Bella (4.5 years) and Reuben (almost 2). We live in Gloucestershire which is just in the South West of England. I’m employed, self-employed and a stay at home mum too in the day times, so I kind of experience it all.
What do you do for a living?
My line of work is quite varied nowadays. For my employed job I’m a cleaner in the evenings. For my self-employed work I am a blogger and also have a small online fashion boutique.
How many hours a week do you work?
I pretty much work every day! For my employed role I work 3.25 hours each night Monday to Friday. My self-employed role is daily and always one hour first thing and 2-3 hours in the day or after my evening job. I also work on my own business whenever I get the chance around mummy duties and housework, so I could work anywhere from 3-7 hours on my own business per day depending on my workload.
Are you in the same line of work as before you had children?
No, I decided to leave my last job of 10 years whilst on maternity with my first child. The cost of childcare would have left me with very little to justify putting my daughter in full time (8 am to 6 pm) childcare each day. I decided if I could find the money I would have had left over by part-time evening work or self-employed work, then I’d be no worse off and I could be a stay at home mum too.
How soon did you return to work after having your children?
I got my first part time evening job after 1 year, but I’d already become self-employed by this point, perhaps 6 months into my maternity leave.
Did you want to return to work?
By this point, yes. When I first had my daughter I didn’t want to go back to my old job and didn’t think I wanted to work. One year later and I suddenly felt ready to get a job and felt excited about it.
What are the hardest things about being a working mum?
Feeling guilty I’m always working and not spending enough time with my children. It’s especially hard to balance working from home with children around. I also miss bedtimes Monday to Friday because of my employed job so I feel I’m missing out quite a lot now, especially with my youngest.
What are your favourite things about being a working mum?
I hope it will teach them to appreciate what they have as they see how hard we have worked to provide for them. Hopefully, we will inspire them to develop their own motivational and hardworking qualities.
What are your least favourite things about being a working mum?
Missing my children’s bedtimes every night and missing half of the family dinner time. I rarely see my husband Monday to Friday as I leave as soon as he is home so I feel a little less organised in our own lives as we try to squeeze a day’s conversation into 10 minutes before I leave!
DO YOU HAVE ANY TIPS FOR OTHER WORKING MUMS?
Try not to feel guilty (even though I said I do) and remember you are doing what you feel is best for you and your family, so ignore the opinions of others.
Any other words of wisdom you’d like to share?
All mums are amazing whether you are a stay at home, working mum, self-employed mum, etc. There are so many opinionated people out there and so much negative press either way about mums that you can feel a sense of pressure sometimes and very judged. I do what I think is best for my own family and I have my own reasons and beliefs, but this doesn’t mean I think someone who does it differently is wrong. Everyone’s situation is different and parenting can be hard, so we should all just be supporting each other whatever we choose to do 🙂
If you’d like to join write a guest blog for the Interview With A Working Mum series just drop me an email, I’d love to hear from you!
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