I’ve been quite outspoken on the subject of mums wearing pyjamas in public on my personal Facebook and Twitter pages (as well as in my office!) – mainly down to a particular lady that I see every morning on the school run.
The topic of mums in pyjamas has now been picked up by the press and other bloggers, and I felt that I couldn’t not put in my twopence worth!
The Rise of the Slummy Mummies
This school has issued a notice to parents asking them to be suitably dressed and washed(!) for the school run, meetings and assemblies to set good examples for pupils and I could not agree more. I am just slightly concerned that it needs a Head Teacher to tell the parents this.
Some mums have said in defence that they don’t have time to get changed out of their pyjamas, mornings are too stressful, or that they’re actually teaching their kids that life is busy and you have to make sacrifices.
What you’re actually teaching your child is that it’s OK to not be prepared for things, that you don’t need to bother setting yourself enough time to make sure that you’re ready, and that not making an effort with your appearance for something important (and school is just a bit important) is OK.
I totally understand mornings with kids are stressful, I only have 1 child to get ready and I don’t think we’ve left the house early since she’s been born so I really do feel for the mums with multiple kids to get out of the house. I mean, we’ve all been late because of a tantruming child who won’t put their socks on or eat their breakfast.
We’re not talking about washing & blow drying your hair or putting a full face of make-up on though. I totally get that looking immaculate that early in the morning is an impossible task with kids unless you want to get up at 4am.
We’re just talking about putting on a pair of trousers. Trousers. That must take what 20 seconds?
Surely if mornings are so rushed that you can’t fit in time to change out of your PJs and into some trousers then you need to sort a few things out. Set your alarm earlier than needed to allow for horrible children ruining your day. Hang up a jumper and pair of jeans on the back of the bedroom door the night before so you don’t have to go rooting around for something without a sticky handprint on it. Or put a pair of jeans with a sticky handprint on, it’s got to be better than going out in public in the clothes you have slept in.
Making sure you’re ready and presentable is teaching your child much more important values and life skills than letting them know life is hard.
You’re teaching them that you need to make an effort with your appearance.
That life is busy and tiring, but you get out of bed in plenty of time anyway to make sure you’re ready for the day, whether for school, work or an appointment.
That first impressions are important in many aspects of life.
If not, how can you complain when your child ‘doesn’t have time’ to brush their teeth before school. Or later in life they turn up for a job interview in a state because they didn’t leave themselves enough time to get ready.
I applaud women who don’t care what others think of them, I really do wish I had more of that attitude in my life, but do you honestly want to be known around the school as “little Jenny’s mum, you know the scruffy one who wears her PJs to school?”. Or for your child to be teased for having “the Skanky mum who doesn’t get dressed”? Poor kids have enough to deal with as it is.
So tomorrow please, please put on a pair of trousers, socks and shoes for the school run.
And don’t let’s get started on the women I see in Tescos in their pyjamas….