Do you ever look at other mums and wonder how they do it? In these days of the perfect social media photos, it’s easy to think everyone else is doing a better job than you.
Better at parenting, better at keeping fit, better at juggling work and family life. But I don’t need to tell you that social media doesn’t show you the whole story, we all know that already.
If you’re still not convinced, here are the secrets of mums who have it all…
They get help
Not many mums manage to do it all by themselves. It’s ok to get help, in fact, it’s smart to get help. Whether it’s someone to pick the kids up from school or a cleaner to help you keep the house looking presentable, don’t be afraid to ask for help.
They struggle to balance
Some women might make it look easy, but juggling a career and kids is anything but. You might have the perfect plan in place to allow you to get to work on time but one sick child or a last minute assembly can send everything tumbling down. Being a working mum is all about balance and the perfect balance requires a lot of juggling.
They get less sleep
Whether it’s getting up at the crack of down to exercise before work or staying up late to get work finished, sometimes the only way to get everything done is to find more time. Unless there’s a magic trick I don’t know about, the only way to find more time is by sleeping less.
Just because you don’t see these perfect mums posting photos on social media of the kids using tablets when they want some peace or the ready meal they’ve stuck in the microwave, it doesn’t mean that it doesn’t happen. And don’t get me started on the perfect selfies – one word: filters.
They feel guilty
Even if they look like they’ve got it all together, every mum feels guilty on a regular basis. It may not be over the big things, but we all lie awake at night stressing over something that’s happened that day. Whether it was shouting too much or being a few minutes late to pick the kids up from school. Unfortunately, it’s just part of being a mum.
If any mum says she doesn’t do the above then she’s lying. I am a firm believer that no mum has it all, no matter what they say. If they’ve got the career then they probably feel guilty about missing their kids or a school event. If they look like they have the work-life balance with part-time hours then they may be struggling to get everything done at work or to bring home enough money.
So next time you look at those perfect Instagram photos and start stressing because you don’t have it all together, just remember that it’s probably not all as perfect as it looks!