Happy Mother’s Day to all you awesome mums out there! I hope you get spoilt today, or at the very least get a lie in, because you deserve it.
Being a mum is the toughest job in the world. Full of stress, worry and a lot of sleepless nights. But when you’re lying awake worrying about whether you’re a good mum, or if you’ve made the right decision just remember…
Mum knows best!
If I could give one bit of parenting advice it would be to listen less to everyone else and go with your gut. I wish I’d done that from day 1.
Generally, us mums know what to do, we just spend a lot of time worrying about it because we fear we’ll be judged, or because other mums do it differently.
99% of the time we make our decisions based on what’s best for our family. Not many mums make decisions selfishly – we’re always putting our families first even if it means we go about it in a different way to our friends or the mums at baby group or the school gates.
Know one else knows what’s best for your family other than you.
So if you’re worried about whether to bottle or breast feed, just do what you want. As long as your baby is fed it really doesn’t matter.
Kid still got a dummy at 3? Who cares! If it gets them to sleep go with it!
Getting frowns from other mums because your kid uses an iPad? Enjoy the peace and leave those other mugs to their Pinterest crafts!
Worrying about going back to work too soon, or working too often? As long as you leave your child with a responsible adult they really will be ok. Enjoy the sit-down and a hot cup of coffee.
Trust me, I have a happy and healthy kid who was bottled fed, “left” from 8 months while I went back to work, had a dummy until 3, and uses her iPad way too much. Believe me, I’ve had some negative comments along the way, and to say I’ve stressed and worried over it all is an understatement. But she’s kind, polite and doing well at school, and when she regularly tells me “You’re the best mummy ever” I realise that I’ve not done too badly so far at all!
I’m not a parenting expert, and I probably have made some wrong decisions along the way.
I’ve got no patience and am definitely “shouty mummy” too often. I let her have more sugar than she probably should, and definitely let her get away with too much! I should be much stricter on the iPad use and make more home cooked meals. My house could be cleaner and I could (& probably should!) spend less time on my phone.
But come on, I’m not Superwoman!
I put my child and my family first every time, and am a firm believer that a happy mum is just as important as a happy kid for the sake of everyone’s sanity.
So, stop worrying about what everyone else is doing (or says they’re doing on Facebook), and do what you think is best.
Maybe also stop judging other mums if they’re doing something you don’t really agree with.
Because Mum knows best 🙂