Welcome to another Interview With A Working Mum guest post.
So far my working mums have included those who have gone back to the same job, a mum who hasn’t been allowed to go back part-time and a mum who has gone back to work after being a SAHM. This week we have a mum who was made redundant just before she had even finished maternity leave!
Firstly please introduce yourself…
Hi! Hello! I’m Abbie, a mum of two boys, Clark (2) and Cruise (1). That always makes me look crazy with that age gap but there is 23 months between them – Clark is soon to be 3! We live in Eastbourne (the sunshine coast!) with my husband and our Lhasa Apso Lilo, and I blog at Mama Wilkos.
What line of work are you in?
I’m a Digital Marketing Freelancer!
How many days do you work?
I am scheduled to work Mondays, Tuesdays and a half day on a Sunday, though I also do some evening work depending if I’ve finished working early to take the boys out etc. I love the flexibility of being freelance but you do have to make up any missed time!
Who looks after the children while you work?
My mum has my boys on a Monday and Tuesday and my husband for half a day on Sunday.
Are you in the same line of work as before you had children?
I’ve always worked in Marketing but was actually made redundant in August last year, two weeks before returning from maternity leave. Who knew companies could actually do that, but turns out they can! I had no idea it was coming either as I was waiting for my return to work date to be confirmed and then got a phone call with the news. I was with the company for 8 years so it was quite a shock, one I panicked over but in the end it’s worked out perfectly. I’m able to work around family life and earn the same amount of money if working 5 days in an office!
How quickly did you return to work after having your boys?
I took 9 months off with both my boys.
Did you want to return to work?
Yes. I always wanted to continue working to make sure I remained ‘Abbie’ rather than just Clark and Cruise’s mummy. I think it’s important to still have time to be you without your children, whether it’s at work or with friends etc.
What are the hardest things about being a working mum?
I never find it gets any easier leaving them with my mum, not because they won’t be cared for or have fun(they always are and always do!), just because there’s a tiny bit of guilt that it should be me looking after them. Also whenever I have to log on quickly to complete a task at home and the boys are after something I’m always saying ‘hold on’, ‘let me finish this’ and I don’t want to be that mum, which is why if ad-hoc tasks crop up I complete them whilst they’re napping or after bedtime.
What are your least favourite things about being a working mum?
Having to leave my children full stop – but I know in the long run it’s good for me and them. Clark had terrible separation issues when I first started working, but having a routine of me dropping him off at my mums allowed that to fade. Now he replies ‘Yahooo!’ when I tell him he’s going to Nana’s!
Do you have any tips for other working mums?
There is no doubt you will miss your children like crazy but remember, you’re setting a great example for them, you’ll be having time to be you again and the smiles/cuddles you’ll get when you’ve finished work will make it all worthwhile. If you’re not happy in your job, change. Find something new, you don’t want work to suck all your happiness out of you on the days you have to be away from your children. You have to make sure you get all the balance right.
Any final words of wisdom?
If you can, get extra help with housework, so any time you do have with your children is spent with them rather than worrying about chores. I have a cleaner and an ironing lady who come in every other week to help out, and it saves A LOT of stress.
Thanks Abbie, I agree with you on the help with chores!
Come back next week to see who’s guest blogging, or catch up on all of the posts here.