Interview With A Working Mum – Min from Single Mum Speaks

Welcome back to another Interview With A Working Mum guest blog post.

I’ve been very lucky to have some wonderful working mums take part so far and you can find all the previous interviews here.

This week I’m pleased to have Min from Single Mums Speaks talking about being a single, full-time working mum.

Interview With A Working Mum - Min from Single Mum Speaks | Digital Motherhood

FIRSTLY, PLEASE INTRODUCE YOURSELF…

I’m Min, which is technically my blogging pseudonym as I didn’t want to reveal my real name for reasons that will be explained later, and I’m a single mum to my son Piglet (also not his real name, do not fear!). We live in Bristol and for the past 18 months have been residing with my mother, which has been, well, let’s say painful at times, as documented on my blog. But we are soon to be moving out into a nice new house on our own.

WHAT Do you do for a living?

I’m a secondary school teacher.

How Many days a week do you work?

I work full time, so five days a week.

ARE YOU IN THE SAME LINE OF WORK AS BEFORE YOU HAD YOUR SON?

Yes, I am in the same line of work as I was pre-Piglet. However, I am not in the same job. When I went on maternity leave I had been working at the same school for eight years and was a Head of Year. I lived and worked in London, and when I was on maternity leave my mother offered to go part time in her job and look after Piglet a few days a week to save my childcare costs.

However, she lived in Bristol. So I got a new job in Bristol, upped sticks and returned to the city of my birth. I did go back to my old job after maternity leave, but only for three months as I already had a new job, so it’s impossible to say how things would have been if I had attempted to go back to my old job in the same circumstances as before.

HOW QUICKLY DID YOU RETURN TO WORK AFTER HAVING YOUR son?

I took nine months maternity leave. I would have loved to take a full year, but unfortunately as a single parent that was out of the question.

DID YOU WANT TO RETURN TO WORK?

No, I didn’t want to return to work, but I am the sole earner so there was never a choice there. To be honest I’m glad I didn’t have a choice. Most teachers I know who’ve had children have gone back part time, and sometimes I wonder if they are just doing the same job for less money.

In an ideal world I would , of course, be a full-time blogger and writer and work from home, but I can’t afford to give up a steady income to do that!

WHAT ARE THE HARDEST THINGS ABOUT BEING A WORKING MUM?

For me, the hardest thing about being a working mum is that sometimes I feel like my mother is my son’s mum and not me. She’s with him three days a week and I only get the weekend!

WHAT ARE YOUR FAVOURITE THINGS ABOUT BEING A WORKING MUM?

My favourite thing about being a working mum is knowing that I still have a career and a life aside from being just a mum. Obviously I’ve never been a SAHM so it’s impossible to say but I think I would find that hard, especially if I had to rely on someone else for money all the time.

WHAT ARE YOUR LEAST FAVOURITE THINGS ABOUT BEING A WORKING MUM?

My least favourite thing about being a working mum is when my son doesn’t want me to go to work in the morning and I have to! Also lack of time for blogging. A lot of other bloggers seem to be SAHMs and some have kids who are at school during the day. I just can’t compete with that -they must have so much more time than I do to spend on their blogs! I end up juggling so many plates and feeling like I’m rubbish at all of them.

DO YOU HAVE ANY TIPS FOR OTHER WORKING MUMS?

I would just like to say not to worry and that it is possible. Your baby will be fine, and so will you.

 

A big thanks to Min for this guest blog – good luck with your new home! If you’d like to find out more about Min and Piglet, check out her blog.

Would you like to take part in Interview With A Working Mum? If so, just drop me an email!

Sarah

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10 thoughts on “Interview With A Working Mum – Min from Single Mum Speaks

  1. The Squirmy Popple says:

    I know what you mean about feeling like you can’t compete with other bloggers who might work part-time or have kids in school – I feel like I really struggle to balance my job, my toddler, my marriage and my blobbing habit, and blogging seems to always be the first thing to go. #stayclassymama

  2. Leanna says:

    I raised three boys totally solo. It was super hard at the time but now I think it turned out for the best.

    Single mothers are forced to be independent. Your children are forced to be independent. You need to learn how to be happy and entertained within a budget.

    Now that my boys are men I am reaping the benefits. They are all working, they can all manage a home, there wives all say they are thankful for them. There is no chauvinism and the list continues.

    Lovely post. Thank you for the share.

  3. rachel says:

    My heart hurts so much reading this. I did the working mum thing out of necessity for 3 years and I really struggled. 🙁

  4. Jade The Parenting Jungle says:

    Yay we love you Min. You know I have utter respect for you and all you do as a single mum having been there myself 🙂 I totally get where you come from feeling strained with other people spending more time with your kids, Leo spend 5 days a week in nursery when I had to return to work full-time as I had no one around so I was envious of them…same with blogging, I can fit and hour in each day if I am lucky so can never achieve as much as others so need to not beat myself up! So many people love your style of writing including me. Keep kicking arse lovely xx thank you for linking to #stayclassymama x

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